Dieting
I know I’ve written on the distinction of diet vs lifestyle before, but I don’t know that I was really listening. It’s kind of like the new trend, ya know? Diets are bad. Diets don’t work. Everyone from Weight Watchers to Lifestyle Coaches are telling you that diets don’t work and that a diet isn’t the answer. And, then they offer you their very nicely packaged “lifestyle”. Well, I think it’s really just a matter of semantics for me. I am not really embracing a new lifestyle. I am starting a diet. My goal is to lose weight and I think that the way I’m going to do that is by dieting - restricting my eating in some fashion in order to get the results that I want. I also hold the belief that once I reach my goal weight, I’ll be able to eat what I want - in moderation. That’s what “they” keep telling me any way. And I’m pretty fed up (haha, funny metaphor).
I am realizing that it really is about embracing a lifestyle. So, I am spending some time thinking about and journaling about who I want to be. I’m am really looking deeply into that. I’m asking myself who I am, who I want to be, what I want, what habits support being like this and what habits don’t. I am looking at, instead of going on a diet, creating a structure for staying connected to who I am and who I am becoming and practicing the habits that support that and letting go of the habits that don’t. Sounds easy, right? So, let’s go.

These have been my thoughts lately.
Why can’t I eat what I put on paper, or plan?
Why am I never in the “mood” for grilled chicken?
Why do I let others control my schedule?
Why don’t I let food be my priority on my list of important topics? Why am I not organized in this area? Why do I shot from the hip everyday instead of plan? Goes back to the “mood” thing.
I am going to think about these things.
I am looking at a calendar and thinking about planning, lists and schedules!
Hugs
Oh, I hear you, girlfriend!
I will point you in one way with some unsolicited coaching. “Why” questions have “because” answers and “because” answers tend to be excuses and justifications. Perhaps there are some better questions to ask?
Try something like:
“What’s it like to…”
“What am I noticing about…”
“What do I really want around…”
“What about this serves me?”
“What inspires me?”
Let me know if you get any fresh insights.
Love,
Carrie
Carrie, I appreciate your post and this is a stumbling block for most people… It’s all about changing your limiting beliefs. For me, when I finally came to the place where I look at certain food and say to myself “I don’t eat that” rather than “I cant have that”…which of course would only make me want it more…And asking yourself the right questions…. I started a series on my blog about changing your life, the 1st 3 steps are up if your interested… http://www.FreeTrainertips.com
love ya.
Thanks, Tami. It really is all about finding limiting beliefs and exploring them and looking for how to include the information and move forward. Thanks for your contribution. xo